Introducing Our Daughter

Finally, after a long week of waiting to share our joy and details about our daughter with you, we finally received pre approval today!  Here she is, the newest member of our family...we proudly introduce Emalyn Mae Qing.

 Our first unofficial family picture

Emalyn with her big sister

 Let's see, where do I start?  As I mentioned before we were DTC on August 17 and were just waiting to get logged in, which was the last step before receiving a referral.  It can take up to four weeks to get logged in, so in my mind we were awaiting a referral from the September shared list (that comes out once a month at the end of the month).  Our social worker, Amy, called late on Monday afternoon, August 30, to deliver the good news that we were logged in and officially waiting on a referral.  She then informed me that the August shared list was due to be released that night (now, like any other adoption obsessed mom, I already knew this was the prediction from the Rumor Queen website and my coffee group, but it was nice to have it confirmed by someone who should know).  She was quick to manage my expectations by saying the list could be short, it could have fewer young babies on it, etc. and we may not get a referral since we were among the last ones logged in prior to the release of the list. 

Based on this information, I tried not to get my hopes up, but kept my phone close by just in case she called.  At 9 am on Tuesday morning, the phone rang.  As soon as I looked and saw it was Amy I got butterflies in my stomach.  Her first words were "are you sitting down?".  She proceeded to tell me a little bit about a sweet little girl and then asked if we wanted to see her file.  "Yes, of course we do!" was my quick response.  A few minutes later Hank and I opened an email that revealed this precious little face.



Included with the pictures was a short medical file and a few details about the personality and habits of our daughter.  We reviewed the file as best we could, forwarded it to a friend who is an ENT, and to the International Adoption Clinic.  We had such a peace from the first glance that she was the one.  I had prayed for clarity and peace was good enough for me.  God has provided so much more than we could have ever asked for or imagined throughout this process.  He is in control and has shown us that over and over again.  He is faithful always and we are so excited to welcome this adorable bundle of joy into our family.

After praying over her, talking to the necessary medical people, and family members, we accepted her referral the same day we received it.

Emalyn is 15 months old and has a first degree cleft lip.  She is tiny for her age, but seems very healthy.  Her cleft lip seems to be mostly cosmetic and doesn't seem to interfere with her eating or babbling.  Her file says she is well liked and fairly on target for her age, developmentally.  Qing is part of her Chinese name and it means "celebrate".  Which we will do for the rest of her life! 

Emalyn was abandoned and that will always be a part of her story, but that will never be all of her story.  I don't want to share too many details about her finding place and story, but it was obvious by the way she was left that someone loved her dearly and didn't choose to give her up.  To me as her mommy, that is very comforting.  I am thankful that I will be able to look her in the eyes when she is old enough to ask questions and tell her with full confidence that her Chinese mother loved her and only gave her up because she had no other choice. 

From what I have gathered during my online searches, she is in a pretty good orphanage (if there is such a thing).  The ratio of caregivers to babies is 1 to 6, which is unusually small.  They receive alot of groups on mission trips into the orphanage to rock, love on and care for the babies, help the nannies and build furniture.  There are two married couples who reside and work at the orphanage, so she has been around men.  This is a blessing, because alot of orphans have never seen a man much less spent time with one. 

It is surreal not knowing every detail of her life and growth and needs and likes/dislikes.  Everyday I try to imagine what she is doing, if she is eating well, sleeping well, well loved, played with...it is hard not knowing much for sure.  Please pray with us that God would prepare her heart to meet us and that He would prepare our hearts, too.  A friend who has an adopted sister told me that her mom always prayed that someone would cry when they took their daughter from her orphanage.  I love that, because it says that someone loved her enough to shed tears because they wanted what was best for her, a forever family, but they would miss her.  I want that to be my prayer for Emalyn.  I pray that someone with her now loves her enough to cry when she meets her forever family.

We are so thankful to be at this point so quickly and we pray that the next steps move along as quickly as the ones before them.  We can't wait to hold our daughter in our arms...to love her up close instead of a world away.

She's the One

We have accepted the referral of our daughter!  I cannot wait to share her with all of you and tell you all about her.  Right now, I am not at liberty to share pictures or details, but I promise to do so as soon as we receive our preapproval to adopt her.  I can tell you that she is a beautiful little girl and perfect for our family.  God is so faithful and we know she is the ONE that He created especially for us.  We are all in awe of His goodness and faithfulness!